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Stop observing life, start living it

by Shiny H., Dancer, Model, and Blogger at from NYC, United States

8 comments · February 2, 2014


Shiny H - Alice And Olivia Strapless Dress - Stop observing life, start living it
  1. Strapless dress

    Alice + Olivia

    , in Alice + Olivia Dresses



That trite expression, 'live with no regrets', has rung through our ears countless times. It strives to restrain us from doing the exact opposite. But have you ever regretted not doing enough, or even not doing anything at all?

When I moved to a foreign country at the age of 18, I had no burdens upon me whatsoever. I was not tied to school; I was free to indulge in a mysterious vortex of possibilities awaiting me. With an innocent, naive mind, I spent the next few years learning, watching, and exploring. In a land where I could not speak the native language, all I chose to do was observe. I saw idols years younger than me performing passionately on a stage in front of thousands of onlookers. I could do that too, I thought, only with the absence of a crowd. I met people my age who were already looking to venture into starting their own businesses. I could do that, too, but maybe 10 years later, I thought.

Two years flew by, and I found myself in yet another country, and as you guessed, I continued with my observations. I saw teens sweating tears and blood in order to become the champion of a dancing competition. I too, had always loved dancing, but never thought to go out and showcase my moves; I just didn't have the confidence. I befriended my co-workers, whose passion and determination to succeed were unsurpassable. I will become more like them too, I thought, but in actuality, I never did.

That's when it struck me. A powerful revelation swept through my entire body. All these years, in the midst of all these chances and opportunities, what have I been doing? While watching and admiring the lives of others, I failed to discover my own place in life. My goal, my passion, my drive, my confidence, had all been a void and before I even knew it, 3, then 4 years had passed by.

If you were to have this same experience, you would also most likely be swept with a pivotal sense of self-discovery. You would learn to value your life to an extreme and make the best of your time, just as I had learned. Although it took me so long to realize that I must be more outgoing, more passionate, more persevering, I'm glad to still be at a young age with a bright future to embrace.

From now on, I don't want to count the days. I will make the days count. Discover who you are inside, and don't ever be afraid to show your true self and talent to the rest of the world. If you don't, you will never achieve and the feeling of losing that chance will never be more agonizing and heart-wrenching.

4 years after that move, I am a different person. I am proud, and ready to reach my goals. I have never been more sure of what I want, and I know nothing can hinder me. Why? Because there is absolutely no time to waste. A new beginning starts with a new year.

Next time, you wake up in the morning, think to yourself. You can either 'continue sleeping with those dreams of yours, or you can get up and start chasing them'.


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Martin Yu
love the dress!
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Sarah Sonnenschein
Very stylish Outfit!
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Marjh Collado
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Neil Watson
You look cute <333333333333
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