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Introvert + introvert

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Olive Kimoto

Olive K.

LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States

2005 posts

so today i realized i will probably never get a guy even remotely similar to the man of my dreams
i like shy awkward introverted guys
however i am a shy awkward introverted girl
how will we ever even meet if we are both so shy

i mean look at all those films, how would any of those guys meet that woman if she wasn't a total extroverted courageous no-fearing bitch?
like eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, and harold and maude
wasn't garden state like that too, idr i'm sure there's millions of other films and books about similar relationships

i am basically incapable of taking risks when i'm not totally pissed off or on the edge
hopefully i will change by then :c

are you introverted? have you ever gone out with an introverted guy/girl?

almost 8 years ago

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Katrín Hammer

Katrín H.

LUND,
Sweden

1817 posts

Oh god, I know :( It's awful. There's no way you can date a shy guy, if you're shy yourself. It just... doesn't work. If there's someone I like that's shy, there's no way I'll make a move. No way. So if he doesn't make a move... it's hopeless. Such a shame, because I think the quiet, shy guys are the sweetest.

Or you can be really brave and make a move. I just know I never would.

0 · February 8, 2010

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Olive Kimoto

Olive K.

LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States

2005 posts

@Katrín H.

exactly ! :(
haha, i met the cutest boy yesterday that helped me at the store, but I just said thank you and left
i just lack the courage

but even if i did, you're right it wouldn't work out! we'd both just be too shy, i guess i practically have to go out with an extrovert... even though they aren't my type D;

0 · February 8, 2010

#3
Rachel Carson

Rachel C.

THE WRONG SIDE OF THE OCEAN,
Canada

1493 posts

I'm introverted, and so is my fiance. Despite that, we both hit it off the first time we met each other, and started dating only a day or so later. Of course, we had a very extroverted mutual friend (well, she's a friend now, I only met her at the same time I met my fiance) playing matchmaker, so that helped :)

0 · February 8, 2010

#4
Olive Kimoto

Olive K.

LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States

2005 posts

@Rachel C.

Ah, congratulations on the engagement! c:

and yeah, hopefully something along the lines of that happens with me! i am horrible with conversation D;

0 · February 8, 2010

#5
Rachel Carson

Rachel C.

THE WRONG SIDE OF THE OCEAN,
Canada

1493 posts

@Olive K.

Thanks.

I'm sure you'll meet some nice introverted boy who you can talk to for hours, and forget that you normally find conversations difficult.

0 · February 8, 2010

#6
Katrín Hammer

Katrín H.

LUND,
Sweden

1817 posts

@Olive K.

I would have done the exact same thing.

But I don't think two introverts are an impossible match. I mean they usually have the same interests and need their space sometimes.

I guess it's all about being brave and making a move!

Agh, I wish I had the courage. Sooo many cute guys I would love to get to know better.

0 · February 8, 2010

#7
Olive Kimoto

Olive K.

LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States

2005 posts

@Rachel C.

Ah, this is true. Me and my friend Jeff get along pretty well, and we're both incredibly shy, introverted, bordering on anti-social haha.

I think we can talk for hours about philosophy and all.

And if i know someone well enough, i never shut up.

0 · February 8, 2010

#8
Olive Kimoto

Olive K.

LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States

2005 posts

@Katrín H.

yeah, i regret it so much
then again, i don't because he was probably older, maybe 18 i'm not sure haha
strangers always seem to assume that i'm 19 or something

and yeah, now that i think about it it's totally doable! it's just the initial meeting part i will probably have trouble with..

i'm horrible at being brave and courageous, WE MUST LEARN KATRIN!

0 · February 8, 2010

#9
Katrín Hammer

Katrín H.

LUND,
Sweden

1817 posts

@Olive K.

Haha yes, we must! We can't just "Oh well, I'm an introvert. Nothing to do about it"

YES THERE IS! We need to be brave.

0 · February 8, 2010

#11
Camille .

Camille ..

NEW YORK CITY,
United States

1810 posts

i think you should just be patient. i'm one of those hopeless romantics who unjustifiably believes that there is someone out there for everyone. like rachel c, you'll meet somebody one day, and somehow one thing will lead to another. it just has to be the right person and the right timing no matter who you are and how you act...

0 · February 8, 2010

#12
Selina M

Selina M.

LONDON,
United Kingdom

5692 posts

bumping up

0 · April 7, 2014

#13
Rachie N

Rachie N.

A LONG TIME AGO IN A GALAXY FAR, FAR AWAY....,
United States

186 posts

My boyfriend and I are both very introverted. We met online, so there's that.

0 · April 7, 2014

#14
Elizabeth S

Elizabeth S.

Canada

50 posts

Use extroverted friends to your advantage to have them introduce you? :) Extroverts don't just know other extroverts - they tend to know introverts as well, or at least that's what I've seen. Honestly, I'm pretty sure things will work out - even if they seem improbable.

I wouldn't describe either myself or my boyfriend as particularly shy, but I would definitely describe myself as an extrovert and him as an introvert. He's more content with his own company than I am, and he finds crowds of people draining whereas I find that being surrounded my friends gives me energy,

1 · April 11, 2014

#15
☽Emī Silberīn Mānelieht☾

☽Emī S.

THE MIDDLE AGES, FRANKFURT/ NY/ CA,
Germany

578 posts

I think I am a quiet extrovert. I seem like an introvert at first glance, but I love company, doing different things and being around people often. I also like time to myself, but definitely not as much as an introvert. I'm not shy.

My husband is quite similar, but much more socially withdrawn for whatever reason. He likes good company, but he hardly ever seeks it unless I push him....:/

0 · April 27, 2014

#16
Stephanie

Stephanie

United States

17 posts

I think that first of all, the man of your dreams will probably be quite different than the man you actually end up with. Secondly, there's a difference between being shy and introverted. Introverts like interaction with other people and they will actively seek attention when they want it, they just like their alone time just as much and are completely ok with being in solitude.

In my opinion you should just bite the bullet and not be shy. I hate being shy and I hate never being able to get what I want because I've been shy. It hinders me from a lot of opportunities to put myself out there, and i'd much rather be that fearless person that goes and gets what they want. You've got nothing to loose y'know? so why not just go out there and ask him.

1 · August 30, 2014

#17
Alicia S

Alicia S.

BRUNSWICK, NY,
United States

163 posts

My husband and I are both introverts. But, we met on a book fan website and dated long distance for about 4 years and then got married and have been married for 4 years! So, the way we met is a little different than other people normally meet.

But, we definitely are super compatible. Maybe if you pluck up some courage and tell whoever it is that you like them, it would facilitate things properly? Even though I met my husband online, I had to spell it out for him that I liked him. Sometimes introverts can't imagine that someone would be attracted to them, so you need to give them a little push.

1 · July 14, 2015

#18
Bonita Rose Chai

Bonita Rose C.

SANTA ROSA, CALIFORNIA,
United States

14 posts

My fiance and I are inherently shy people. We are both introverts, but that's not related to our shyness. When I interacted with him a few times, I really wanted to get closer to him-- I simply just asked for his cellphone number. Letting a person know that you're are interested in him/her is just part of a gamble you don't want to avoid in life.

While we can't completely battle our own shyness, we both can fake it and we just guide each other in different situations. We both can't stay completely shy forever, because it won't help us financially, lol. So if anything, our survival skills allowed us to be less shy.

I suggest you watch Le Fabuleux Destin d'Amélie Poulain, the character in that film had to overcome her shyness.

0 · February 17, 2016

#19
Saffia Taha

Saffia T.

PHILIPPINES,
Philippines

4 posts

Im both! I guess its called Ambivert. Well during my teens to early twenties Im more of an extrovert but then when I was 24 i noticed I tend to be alone and avoid meet up with friends and all so i became more of an introvert spending more time alone...

0 · May 9, 2016

#20
Lily Jane

Lily J.

Portugal

114 posts

Everyone has his own path :)

0 · September 28, 2016

#21
Selina M

Selina M.

LONDON,
United Kingdom

5692 posts

i'm an ambivert. extroverted personality, introverted energy

0 · March 20, 2017

  

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