Lol, nooooooooo girl, that was not a negative comment at all. That is not who I am. I actually admire people that do not conform to standards because I don't have the courage and time to make such a big change about myself. Here is a definition of hot mess in the urban dictionary:

Defined, "hot mess" refers to when a "person's appearance is in a state of total disarray while still maintaining an undeniable attractiveness & allure.

Hot messes are appealing for a variety of reasons, most notably because they are generally unexpected, capricious and agonizingly provocative. See, you are stunning, babe!