I have trouble distinguishing between things I will love forever and things I love for now. Particularly when it comes to clothing. This will probably come as a surprise to no one, but it’s been on my mind lately as we decorate our home. In 2013, mostly out of necessity, because we were broke and living in Paris, I changed my shopping habits completely. I got rid of anything in my closet I didn’t regularly wear. I did the Five Piece French Wardrobe Challenge. And I came out the other side of the experience feeling a lot more sane, my desire to impulse shop seriously diminished.
But – there is always a but, and in this case, it’s that I think I’ve gone too far. I have always tended towards the extreme, and my approach to shopping is no exception. At this point, I buy nothing if I can’t come up with three different ways to wear it while still in store. (This dress was the last time I made an exception – and that exception happened in December 2016.) These jeans, which are way outside my usual comfort zone, were not an exception; I had three different looks planned for them before I pulled the trigger at Zara. And yet, in the end, when our suitcases were overstuffed coming home, and I had difficult choices to make, they were one of the first things I let go.
Therein lies the problem – my deep distaste for clutter means I am too quick to get rid of anything that I don’t absolutely need. As a result, I resell or donate many of my “for now” purchases in less than six months. And I feel ridiculous doing it. So I do everything I can to only purchase forever pieces. But that means that I agonise over every single thing I buy, concerned that I choose anything I don’t absolutely love, I will wind up wanting to get rid of it within a year. Most recently, I have been to six different stores in a search for plain black or white placemats. I still, it should be clear, have not bought any.
I haven’t figured out how to find a happy medium between forever and for now pieces. My exacting standards (and unwillingness to compromise on what I want) can make me feel unreasonable, but on the opposite side of the same coin, discarding nearly new things makes me feel wasteful. So I want to hear from you – how do you strike a balance between investment pieces you’ll love forever and indulgences that you might only love for a little while?
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